Transgender Non-binary

Transgender Non-binary
*Content Warning: Mental Health, Transphobia
 
“You’re not really trans.” “This is just for attention or to seem interesting.” “You’re either a man or woman.” “I’m okay with trans men and women but none of this non-binary stuff.” “If you’re medically transitioning then you can’t be non-binary.” “They/them pronouns are too hard for me to use for you.”
 
I’ve heard all this (and more) time and time again when I talk about being a non-binary person. Add in that my specific gender is a cultural gender identity and as you can imagine, I am well acquainted with having my gender identity dissected and disbelieved by strangers, community members (unfortunately transphobia against non-binary people and racism are alive and well in the larger LGBTQIA and even trans community) and loved ones alike. People like boxes, and as a multiracial, bisexual, non-binary person I fit in none of them.
 
Contrary to popular belief, there isn’t one “correct” way to be trans or non-binary. Each one can look many different ways. For me, non-binary often looks like long hair and facial hair, bright lipstick, dresses, Doc Martens, and a big love of floral print and big earrings. It also means curves, broad shoulders, a (surgically altered) flat chest, hormone replacement therapy, a name that feels as fluid as my gender is, all existing on my bigger brown body.
 
I don’t fit the image often presented for non-binary people. I am not thin, not white, and I wouldn’t call myself masculine-presenting most of the time. None of that makes me any less non-binary.
 
That’s the beauty of it for me. I can wear anything that feels comfortable, present any way that feels right and it’s all non-binary because I am, and proudly so. I love existing outside of the confines of male and female. It’s my happy place. It feels like freedom, and I wouldn’t give it up for anything.
 
 
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